don't be a slave to social media

In today's world we are constantly being bombarded and overloaded with sensory, what everyone else is doing/wearing/going to/eati...

In today's world we are constantly being bombarded and overloaded with sensory, what everyone else is doing/wearing/going to/eating/, "inspiration" and numbers that judge you. And with all this, we can't help but doubt ourselves or let it get to us. I see people buying things simply because everyone else has it or going somewhere because everyone else is going or throwing insane theme parties cause everyone on Pinterest is doing it.  Social media is shaping so much of us and our world and often inhibits our better judgement. It hinders us from just being who we are.  FOMO is real nowadays but it really shouldn't be and we shouldn't let it be.

It's more important than ever now to simply be yourself. Embrace yourself. Do exactly what you want. Wear what you love. Enjoy the things that make you happy because they actually make you happy. 

I know I am guilty too of "letting it all get to me" so I think it's important to shut everything off sometimes - Facebook, Instagram, Youtube, Snapchat etc. - and have a reality check. Much too often we forget to live our own life and appreciate what we have and all our victories.

Being in my mid-30's I would like to say I am pretty confident in who I am but like I said, I still have some moments that make me doubt myself. Yah, those damn Instagram numbers get to me too. But after being annoyed for a few weeks, I'm over it. At the end of the day, I blog because I love it and the elements that go along with it.

  • I love photography and I'm really focusing in on what I'm good at and my aesthetic. I am a firm believer when it comes to photography that you have to just relax and find your own aesthetic. I've had plenty of people reach out to me asking what do I shoot with or how do I edit my pictures. And my answer always is, it doesn't matter what I do. You have to find your own eye and develop your own skill. The way you shoot and edit will evolve but it should be according to you and how you see the world. And you just have to shoot. A LOT.  If you're just trying to shoot like someone else, people can tell it's not genuine. 
  • I love getting dressed every morning even if it's jeans, t-shirt and outerwear every day of the week. I always feel more complete with a jacket because that's what Mama taught me. And I wear mainly black, white and grey not because it's trendy, but it's what I realized I gravitate to. About 7 years ago I was cleaning out my closet and selling off pieces I no longer wear and I realized I everything I was keeping was black, white, grey. At that point I figured "Ok, just go with it."
  • I still love to shop and share my purchases but nowadays I really don't buy things just because everyone else has it. A few months ago I actually bought those Laurence Dacade boots despite them being several seasons old and couldn't even find a picture of anyone wearing them. I knew I loved them and would be able to style them with a lot of outfits to get tons of wear out of them. I much rather buy something that is a few seasons old that will get tons of wear instead of something so trendy that I will get bored of. I also find that the trendy bags or shoes that everyone has may look beautiful but may not quite be me. So unless it's 110% me (Like those Balenciaga booties) I won't bother.
  • I love exploring and getting introduced to new brands. There's something about smaller brands that I love. Perhaps it's because they pour so much heart into it. But without blogging, I wouldn't have the opportunity to learn about these brands. 
  • I love beauty products and trying out all sorts of new products. I've always had slightly oily skin and therefore a slightly hard time keeping my makeup looking flawless for 12+ hours. So I always feel like I'm on a mission to find the right products to solve this problem - face wash, toner, masks, foundation, powder, eyeliner, eyeshadow, everything. There's so many possibilities so I love sharing my experiences.
  • I love connecting with people and other fellow bloggers. I get super inspired buy chatting and getting to know you guys - and sometimes from halfway across the world. I think we're so lucky nowadays that we have this opportunity! 
So yah, I don't blog to be famous or to have a number grade me like some report card. Blogging/instagram/social media is one of those things that you have to truly love to continue doing on and on. It's like bread - you have to love the crust and crumbs of it. Not just the good parts. And whether it's showing yourself in a blog/social media or real life, you have to just be you. Sure, get inspired by others but take what everyone else is doing with a grain of salt. Always do it your way. Don't be a slave to social media. 

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  1. What an amazing post, Annette! Can relate to every single word you posted and you spoke after my own heart, but wrote it so beautifully.
    Sadly, there's a lot of individualism, but little individuality and there are wayyy too many girls who start blogging to be instafamous and who obviously don't really have a passion for fashion. The problem is that way too many of them fake it and they end up making it. You have to have a lot of guts to be yourself nowadays or do things differently, because most people will just stick to what is generally accepted.
    I confess my numbers during the past year have affected me a lot, but my passion for what I do is what keeps me going. It's sometimes very difficult, because it seems the numbers dictate everything and if you don't get enough likes, you are not as good as one who gets more likes than you. This reasoning is wrong, because Justin Bieber has surely more followers than The Beatles, but that doesn't mean in any way Justin Bieber is making better music than the Beatles did. Neither likes nor followers are indicator of the quality of someone's work.
    I am so happy to know you are such an authentic individual and I think your heart (and mind!) is in the right place. Thank you for this awesome post and for sharing your thoughts! We need more bloggers/humans like you. x

  2. Totally agree with you. There are way too many trends dictating every aspect of how we "should" live our lives and it's out of control.

    That's part of the reason why I've pulled back on IG and part of the reason why I'm not so showy with my accessories these days as well because I don't want to be known as a trend.

    At the end of the day I buy things I love and I put my phone away for a couple of days sometimes because spending time with my family means so much more.

    Good article Annette! Cant wait to see what's gonna happen next with IG and how it will affect us all. It's a crazy unpredictable ride isn't it?

    Xo, Nathalie

  3. Great article Annette!! Totally agree with you on this. It's incredible the influence social media has on our lives, good and bad. I guess we're all feeling the bad right now with Instagram so it's great to hear how genuinely committed you are to your blog and being yourself. Good challenge for us all! Thanks for sharing, Judith xx

  4. Amazingly honest post, and totally agree that this whole process has to be a passion to continue on a daily basis. Inspiring, keep up the great posts!

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